If you’re a mammal, you have a lot to do to survive. We have much of the food, water, and shelter aspect mastered in our society. Take a moment to think about that and you’ll lower your stress chemicals. But the social survival skills get a bit unwieldy.
Mammals live in groups to survive all the physical threats. This has created social survival skills like alpha monkeys, dominance, etc. Challenging the social hierarchy could result in pain, death, or expulsion -which is the equivalent on death.
Modern day moms experience it like this:
-did I brush my hair today? If I didn’t, the other moms will not accept me, and if I’m not accepted into a group, I won’t have all the resources to survive and I’ll die. Must.find.brush.
-my kid is playing a little rough with those kids at the park. If I don’t go intervene, the other parents will think I’m neglectful and don’t care about their children. They will reject me, and I’ll die. Run to intervene, and go to the park less.
There is so much to do as a modern mammal mama! You probably have lists to do of all those annoying parts of being an accepted mammal like pay that bill, respond to an email, Buy more hair brushes, etc. These tiny loose ends start to add up as a looming threat to survival that is spiking your stress hormones like cortisol.
How to cope:
Setting the timer for 1 hour to work on all those little things you’ve been meaning to get done is an awesome way to lower your cortisol. Trying to remember to do so many things starts to feel overwhelming and threatening to your “inner mammal”. Do her a favor and clear your mind and your to-do list once a week!
Once your cortisol is down, you get more blood flow to the area of your brain that holds your personality. Hooray! #yourkidswanttherealyou
One hour is great because you can really get into a flow. Interruptions and multitasking can feel threatening too. If you can’t, try for 15-30min. I think you’ll find 1 hour extremely satisfying, mammally speaking.